‘Cause making up is hard to do
Posted September 14, 2009on:
We entered the room in various states of, well, hair. Mine was shorter, grayish white – my natural color at long last – but still there. Not for long, mind you, but still there.
Other women had already lost their hair, covering their baldheads with a wig, a baseball cap, a straw hat or a turban. Still another woman noted her daughter had added pink to her hair for last weekend’s Steppin’ Out in Pink, a community-wide event to raise money for breast cancer research.
We were also all there for Look Good; Feel Better. This wonderful American Cancer Society program has a volunteer cosmetologist who demonstrates to women with cancer how to use a ton of very high quality makeup donated by a variety of companies. The idea is that if we look better we’ll feel better about ourselves during chemotherapy and/or radiation.
If we lose eyebrows, we can use this eyebrow pencil to draw them back in – or at least give some color to the area that once was eyebrowland. We were taught to put dots at strategic locations and then connect those dots.
A lip liner before lipstick will help us keep that bit of color all day. Then there was cleanser, eye shadow, eye liner, and much more.
I’ve never been a big makeup person, perhaps because of my lack of fine motor skills. With all apologies to Neil Sedaka, in my case, it’s making up that’s hard to do, not breaking up. My eyebrow dots were excessive to say the least and my lipstick ended up on my teeth. Not good signs.
We all worked very hard at it, trying the donated makeup. For one woman, it was especially difficult. This was her fourth round of breast cancer, but her first time at Look Good; Feel Better.
All of a sudden she had tears in her eyes. The donated makeup was not for her complexion, she said. She felt she couldn’t use any of it.
And, I knew she was not crying about the makeup; the makeup was just the final straw – the catalyst for releasing the pain she was feeling.
And not a one of us knew how to help her.